The EX files

My Wednesday morning has been quite one for the record books:

I got a virus on my computer about a week ago but my computer overall was running fine until I realized I couldn't get my work email. I reluctantly called IT to see if they can help me. The IT guy I spoke to on the phone said he couldnt find my computer on the network- UH OH! He couldnt come down today but he would be down in the morning. I cringed not because i did somthing wrong (well I did ) but one of my ex boyfriends just so happens to be the IT guy for my office.

I know what you are thinking right now- YOU just broke the cardinal rule, DO NOT date anyone in the office. Right, it sounded liked the best idea at the time but when we broke up, I knew I was forever screwed.

Well, to my shock, HE appeared at my cubicle this morning and I told him I broke it. I awkwardly got up and scooted around he took my seat and got to work. I said to myself I wasn't going to have this be awkward and I started small talk.

"I really broke it didn't I?!"
"Yup"
"Oh Sugar"

I asked him how his house was going ( he bought one just before we broke up) and how his parents were blah blah blah........

After a while, I realized some things, never changed. I say this because he acted in the same manner as he was right before we broke up. Now I have never run into an ex or even a guy I went on a couple of dates with and I didnt know what to expect.

This affirmed that we broke up for the right reasons.

Sometimes God, works in funny ways.

XX the everyday jersey girl.

Saying yes..... To myself

http://www.buzzfeed.com/sjlewinter/21-phases-of-a-first-date-fail-emh7

I am the lucky girl who the Maid of Honor for my best friends wedding. I am so happy she is getting married but I have to admit, being a single girl planning her best friends wedding, feels almost like I'm trapped in a romantic comedy. I should be falling for the best man the moment I see him right? (Spoiler alert: he's already married ) I love my best friend and her fiancée so much but I feel like I'm the third wheel permanently. You know, always the maid of honor never the bride. Now I'm not complaining, what so ever but it's awkward. 

I have had boyfriends in the past- though they have only lasted   Maybe 3 months maximum ( I am still trying to figure out why...) and I have tried online dating (on multiple occasions), dating co-workers(not advisable especially if he is the IT guy :/), meeting through friends (rarely works) and yet I haven't found any man to stick around long enough. I am starting to think there is something wrong with me. I know! I actually have my shit together and apparently that scares the crap outta men. Why do the girls always have to be the damsel in distress- we can take care of ourselves (sometimes)! We like the idea of the Prince coming to rescue the girl and they live happily ever after- when does that ever really happen besides with Prince William and Kate Middleton?? ( So jealous of these two and so envious of Kate Middleton's closet and life!!!!) (who doesn't right?) 

After this last breakup, I swore I wasn't going to go back on the dating websites because 1. It's god awful; 2. I constantly find boys I have already met in real life and 3. It's getting really REALLY old. But atlas, I did go back and yes, the pickings are slim. I am not even entertaining the idea of actually going out with any of these eligibable batcholers. Its that bad.

My whole point is normally when a boyfriend break up with me, I usually end up taking up a new hobby or refinding a lost one. When the IT guy broke up with me in February, I signed up for golf lessons. When the body builder broke up with me in May, I found the teacher quickly and started dating him (I guess you can call a hobby of mine, dating) and When  the teacher broke up with me in September, I started painting and crafting again (hard core). I guess I like these distractions to keep me from dwelling on my current heartbreak.

For the first time in almost 20 months, I have real no desire to date anyone, to go out on dates and talk about the same thing with 20 guys and pretend I am interested.I have been on this 'dating spree' for the last 2 years and I am EXHAUSTED. Dating is quite exhuasting and it doesn't help that a crapload of my friends are getting engaged and I'm still the single girl-that title is a love/hate relationship with me. I am excited to work on me and see where my hobbies and interests take me.

So I am finally saying YES to myself and to take time and do things I want to do and not pretend to like anything I don't want to do.

XX, the everyday jersey girl

Dating advice from a male co-worker

This is what you have to do: 

Get all dressed up, go to red bank, find the most expensive martini bar and that is where you will find a great man. 

Mo-Co is where it's at. You follow the money, you'll find a great man. 

Thanks g! I already tried that one and my track record isn't that great (one moved more north and one passed away [rip bb]) I know I don't belong  in Oc-Co but I'm trying my hardest to make it work. 

I wish finding a great man wasn't so hard 

XX the everyday jersey girl

hey did you go.....

Today was a good day, before i went into work this afternoon, I stopped into Old Navy to return a pair of pants I bought online but they ended up being too big! (ahhhh yess!!) So I walk in and hop on line with 3 people in front of me. I had my iPhone in my hand and I anxiously was looking at it making sure I was keeping track of time. Luckily the 3 people in front of me didn't have really complex or complicated purchases so I am standing behind this man who is looking at the gift cards and then there is me, standing there in all black clothes, my bright teal bag and a small brown shopping bag with the pair of black pants, the cashier, a boy, looked at me while the man buying the gift card was swiping his credit card, said to me "oh you can put your bag up here, its alright" with my shyness, smiled and obliged. The man who bought the gift card left and this was the conversation that transpired:

cashier boy: hello
me: hi, i bought these online but they didn't fit
cashier: oh okay i can take care of this for you
cashier: ::::looking at the receipt, punching keys on the keyboard:::
me: :::smiling uncomfortably:::
cashier: okay $25 will go back on the card
me: :::rummaging through my HUGE bag::: do you need the card?? ::my voice trembling at this point::
cashier: did you go to _____? :::as he is finishing up the transaction:::
me: ::::stumbling over my words and super surprised:: uh uh yes  i did
cashier: i thought you looked familiar
me: :::racking my brain to think of something intelligent to say because I am so surprised by what he said:::  ::smiling and my face is probably red::: what year did you graduate?
cashier: 05
me: :::smiling:: 06
me: i'm gabrielle ::smiling thinking if that was okay to say:::
cashier: i'm nick :: as he is handing me the receipt:::
me: well it was nice to meet you, see you around
cashier: you too have a good day.

I walked out of Old Navy beaming, things like this happen but never to me and it got me excited and i bounced over to my job. I wouldn't say it was busy because it wasn't but I wouldn't say it was slow either. Today brought in a lot of foreigners that were quite mean and rude. I didn't mind their rudeness because I kept trying to think who this Nick character was and how did I know him besides seeing him at Old Navy.

Hmm, I'll have to see where this one goes.

Other than that I was feeling a lot better today until dinner when i ventured to eat chocolate ice cream =( oh well, i have been really doing well with this whole gluten free diet/lifestyle. Friday will be the one month mark.

with sparkling eyes, look for the beauty in everything.
-elle