**Another unfinished draft from my archives. I love reading these old drafts. I remember this so clearly. I was dating a guy who clearly did not have the best communication skills and I remember feeling so frustrated about the miscommunication. I clearly was not communicating what was bothering me so it was an interesting conversation. I added some thoughts/memories in italics after the last paragraph.**
This weekend was full of emotions- happiness, sadness, frustration confusion , embarrassment, confidence.
Friday night I had drinks and dinner with an old friend. We've known each other for TEN years ( which totally freaks the two of us out!! How can we be this old?!) we went to a local place in downtown and it happened to be a retirement Happy hour for a prosecutor. We both started recognizing different people and then we spot out favorite judge! This judge is fabulous- she dresses amazing, she is an amazing person off the bench and she does the adoptions for most of my cases. (Full disclosure- I was a total fan girl when I saw her outside of the courtroom, in normal clothes [still looking fabulous!!!] ) she spotting my friend and I and came over to chat!!! she introduced her hubby to us and told him exactly what our roles were. I was very impressed!
After my fan girl moment, we caught up on our relationships (she always gives me the best advice) and we were freezing! We say outside for 2 hours and the weather!decided to do a total 180 and it got cold- we went inside to put out name on the list for a table and while we waited we caught up more, snapped selfies, chatted with out boyfriends and drank some more!
I love this girl- we have been through the ringer and sometimes didn't talk for a while and we have always picked right back up when we get together again.
What a wonderful night!
Saturday I awoke bright and early to get chores done before heading over to boyfriends for an afternoon filled with games! I texted him the night before :
G:what times are the games
K: 1
G: okay I'll be over for 1215! See you tomorrow
After doing most of my chores, getting dressed (shoulda wore shorts!!!) and giving mama a support so she can get something's off her chest, I try and go find daddy to say goodbye. He's not at the firehouse picnic yet and I called him. He was at home depot so I told him to meet me at the bank to say good bye (it was 1140). I knew it would take me at least 30 minutes to get to boyfriends and we would be leaving at 1230 to get to the games afternoon in hamilton; I had only a few minutes to spare and he showed up a few minutes after he said he would - he asked me what did he do to upset mama. I told him and he denyed it. I got so upset with him I drove away in tears. I get to boyfriends house in record time and his car is not in the driveway. I was a few minutes late but I got worried and even more upset now. I call him and he's picking up wine and beer for the game afternoon. I thought' great so we can just go' he said he would be home in a few. As he pulled into his driveway- I got the dog biscuts for lobo and kiley and hopped outta the car. He motioned to his wrist implanting I was late. I know I know I stated with a sad feeling because I was late and I'm a very prompt person normally and I was thinking About what happened before I left.
As we were walking into his house, the pups greeted us and they immediatelt sat down in front of me because they knew I had a treat for them. I made they attempt to lay down and then they got their treat. The pups surround me by the door and they won't let me in for a few minutes. Boyfriend reappears with a beer and proceedes to the couch. I approach him and ask what time are we leaving? He said after the game ie the rangers game. I let out a loud groan and slump down on the couch. I was visibly upset and said " I thought you said the GAMES were at 1 not the GAME. His response was " I was wondering why you were coming over so early" hmph. Hmph hmph. I was so aggravated at this point I didn't even want to stay. His parents appeared and his mom gave me a big hug (she's so so sweet!) and we start to chat.
We ended up leaving for the game afternoon after the game. I loved his friends and they were always so sweet and kind. We played Narobi, a CSI game, ticket to ride, munchkin and another off beat game. They were just always sweet and genuine with me. I kinda miss them. They were the first people I knew in my adult years who loved playing board games and I LOVED this.
Needless to say, this relationship's communication sucked. We both didn't know how to effectively communicate with each other but after reconnecting years later, we both sorta apologized to each other for that. I wish him all the luck in life. He was a cool guy to know. Sometimes, the universe puts people in your life to teach you things/show you something and He was definitely that.
